Greetings and welcome to my ren-interbeing website. I am Winchell Quan, a California licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Before I tell you about who I am, I would like to briefly explain ren-interbeing.
Ren is a Chinese word that symbolizes a valued concept of human love, one of benevolence and harmony between people. The quality of such a relationship is developed through reciprocal kindness by way of social interactions of mutual concern and understanding. There are two guiding principles:
“Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire” and
“Help others establish themselves insofar as you wish to establish yourself; and help others achieve their goals insofar as you wish to achieve yours.”
Interbeing is a term Thich Nhat Hanh uses to emphasize the connection each of us have with one another and all living things. We are not separate isolated entities but part of and intricately connected to the greater whole. How we live influences others as well as being influenced by those around us.
Ren and Interbeing are qualities one learns rather than being born with. Together these two terms inspire a way of being, to be compassionate towards others and to be aware of our influences on one another. We can nurture these qualities of being.
I have been developing my psychotherapy skills since the late 1980s'. I am a graduate of Sonoma State University with a MA in Counseling. I have worked in non-profit, county government and private sector settings. My clients have included children, teens, adults, couples and families.
I am also a student of Zen teachings, beginning in late 1990s. I believe this is relevant to my therapeutic work because it teaches me to practice patience and compassion, helps me develop presence and deep understanding, and guides me to strive to live a life of mindfulness, being awake. It teaches me to be humble, to know that each of us carry mistaken beliefs that cause us to feel discontent and grasp for happiness.
Cultivating mindfulness in daily life towards fostering mental health and emotional well being has been an essential goal of therapy. I believe how we perceive our daily life tasks influences our relationship with our self and all those we are in contact with. In each moment, whether we are experiencing joy or discomfort, we are provided opportunities for personal growth towards ren-interbeing.