Greetings and welcome to my ren-interbeing website. I am Winchell Quan, a California state Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Before I tell you about who I am, I would like to briefly explain ren-interbeing.
Ren is a Chinese word that symbolizes a valued concept of human love, one of benevolence and harmony between people. The quality of such a relationship is developed through reciprocal kindness by way of social interactions of mutual concern and understanding. There are two guiding principles:
“Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire;” and “Help others establish themselves insofar as you wish to establish yourself; and help others achieve their goals insofar as you wish to achieve yours.”
Interbeing is a term Thich Nhat Hanh uses to emphasize the connection each of us have with one another and all living things. We are not separate isolated entities but part of and intricately connected to the greater whole. How we live influences others as well as being influenced by those around us.
Ren and Interbeing are qualities one learns rather than being born with. Together these two terms inspire a way of being, to be compassionate towards others and to be aware of our influences on one another. We can nurture these qualities of being.
Winchell Quan, MFT
I have been developing my psychotherapy skills since the late 1980s'. I am a graduate of Sonoma State University with a MA in Counseling. I have worked in non-profit, county government and private sector settings. My clients have included children, teens, adults, couples and families.
I am also a student of Zen teachings, beginning in late 1990s. I believe my Zen practice has helped me to be mindful of practicing patience and compassion, to strive for curiosity and understanding within myself and others.This reminds me to be humble, to know that each of us carry mistaken beliefs that cause us to feel discontent. My goal within the the therapeutic relationship is to foster mutual cooncern and understanding towards resolution.
and grasp for happiness.
I believe how we perceive our daily life tasks influences our relationship with our self and all those we are in contact with. In each moment, whether we are experiencing joy or discomfort, we are provided opportunities for personal growth towards ren-interbeing.
Counseling for Individual Adults and Transitional Age Adults, 18-26
Counseling for Couples and Families
DBT Skills Groups and Workshops