FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)
How would I benefit from therapy?
When an individual believes their quality of life is not as it should be, or feels there is something wrong, something missing, or someone else is just not being as they should be, the process of psychotherapy can provide clarity to these situations. The therapist, by attending to the client’s story and beliefs, can provide feedback, education and motivation to support the client towards a path of well being.
How do I differ from other therapists?
I believe how we live our lives each day affects us and all those we are in contact with. Each moment we are in connection with others, these interactions provide opportunities for personal growth towards the practice of ren-interbeing. A Mindful approach to therapy is to offer clients my true presence and mindful listening. Clients often are in search of clarity, to be heard, understood and acknowledged. As a therapist, I strive to provide this quality of engagement by my daily practice of living mindfully; the art of living with greater awareness and ease of well being. I seek to assist clients with developing clarity and choices. All with the goal of supporting a healthy well being, a life of mindfulness and connection.
Having spent a number of years with a spiritual practice of mindfulness, I have had plenty of opportunities to address my daily upsets and with how I feel life ought to be. This mindfulness practice continues to provide me an appreciation of the difficulties and the challenges of living life with awareness. Knowing and experiencing my daily struggles allows me to be genuinely empathic with what clients bring into therapy. I think we each have the desire to live in a harmonious world and can benefit from a supportive and validating perspective to stay on our chosen path.
What do I bring to the therapy sessions/process?
One of the goals I set for myself as a therapist is to be genuinely present, providing understanding and validation to my clients’ concerns and desires. I believe very often clients do not experience a sense of being understood; at times feeling they do not understand what is going on for them or are aware of where they are stuck. I pay close attention to what clients are experiencing, wanting to express, acknowledging their difficulties, providing feedback, and assisting them with developing skills to gain greater clarity about themselves, their relationships and life goals.
How do I engage clients in my therapy sessions?
I strive to bring a sense of curiosity, attentiveness, compassion, openness, wonder, and positive regard towards clients. I pay close attention to the client’s body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, listening to what clients are not able to articulate or are unaware of. I believe clients have stories and unmet needs that have not been explored. My goal is to help clients know their story and how it influences their lives.
What if we have interpersonal problems and only one of us is willing to seek therapy?
I believe as each of us participate in relationships, we exert influence. Even if only one individual makes an effort to change the dynamics, a shift has occurred. Sometimes these subtle shifts remain unseen, lost in the busyness or avoidance. If couples counseling is not agreeable at the moment, individual sessions would still be helpful in bringing about a healthy relationship.
What is Dialectical Behavioral Therapy?
DBT Skills Training is a evidence based treatment developed by Marsha Linehan, PhD. She developed these skills to help women with high emotional dysregulation and multiple attempts of suicide. Her program with helping these women were highly successful. Research on the benefits of the DBT skills programs were found to be quite useful to manage intense emotions and impulsive behaviors. The benefits of these skills can be applied to manage symptoms of anxiety, depression, substance-use disorders, eating disorders and trauma. DBT Skills is a form of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy that teaches 4 sets of skills and strategies to create a meaningful and worthwhile life.
Mindfulness skills to learn to live in the present moment, paying attention to your thoughts, emotions and experiences in the here and now. Learn to identify emotions, the associated emotionally driven thoughts, physically sensations of emotions and identify behavioral urges when one is arousal by a prompting event.
Distress Tolerance/Radical Acceptance skills helps one learn how to manage a crisis situation. To be aware of your intense emotions and your strong urge to fix a problem that may not be solvable at the moment. When in times of intense emotional arousal, the urge to act on impulsive behaviors to avoid pain and suffering could make the situation worse. Acceptance skills are to learn how to tolerate these strong emotions and not act on these behavioral urges that feel good at the time of crisis, but are ineffective.
Interpersonal Effectiveness skills to improve your communications towards getting your needs met, being aware of when and how to ask for what you want and being able say no to unwanted requests in a skillful manner without damaging relationships. Skills to help you identify your wants and desires via self validation to enable you to accurately express yourself to others without shame or guilt.
Emotional Regulation skills to help you identify your emotions, learn the function of emotions and how to manage negative emotions effectively. Develop skills to reduce vulnerabilities to negative emotions and replace reactive ineffective behavioral responses with effective behaviors that will not make matters worse.